Burnout hits hard - what's your go-to "mom reset" for reclaiming peace in a chaotic day?
My reset is a series of small gestures during the day that allow me to recharge my battery in short bursts, so I can make it through bedtime. These tiny gestures are moments where I meet my basic needs - refill my water bottle, have a protein-rich snack, step away from my daughter to breathe on the front porch, take an extra few minutes in the bathroom (if she's not in there too!) to close my eyes. All very small moments but they add up in a day, and allow me control through the day to meet my needs and boost myself through until bedtime.
Is "mom guilt" a myth we should bust once and for all?
Mom guilt is not a myth, but it is often a false flag. When we really get to the root of mom guilt, it's much more about self-doubt, and not trusting ourselves as mothers. Unfortunately, this stems from the unrealistic expectations placed on us as mothers. When we're expected to be supermoms and then fail because it's unattainable, that often gets turned around into mom guilt.
What's your advice for moms when they feel like they're in survival mode 24/7?
The first thing I advise mothers to do in this situation is to assess their basic needs. Often times in crisis mode, our own needs fall down the priority list to the very bottom. And when our basic needs aren't met (water, good food, fresh air, movement, taking meds consistently, sleep), crisis mode lasts longer and hits harder than it has to. So start there - assess your basic needs every single day until you're consistently taking care of yourself, then reassess.
How can moms turn those small daily wins into confidence boosters?
I think when we have tiny wins during the day, especially when they are focused on meeting our basic needs, they’ll naturally feel like a confidence booster because we’ll physically feel better! I think motherhood is about a string of tiny wins along the way, and if we can narrow our focus to find them and remind ourselves of them, we’ll be able to feel more confident in our mothering, and ourselves.
What's your favorite "Mom Mantra" when anxiety creeps in?
“I’m doing the best I can, with what I have.” I also like the reminder that “I am the best mom for my child.”
How can we start the day with intention when waking up feeling overwhelmed?
Doing gratitude work first thing in the morning can be super helpful in starting each day with a more positive mindset. I recommend a little journal on your nightstand to write them in. When you wake up, before you reach for your phone, reach for the journal and write down 3 things you’re grateful for that day. They can be big or small, about your kids or yourself, just as long as what you write inspires gratitude and fulfillment.
What are your favorite products at Copper Pearl?
I would not have survived infancy and babyhood without their burp cloths, bibs, blankets, and nursing/car seat covers. The prints matched my aesthetic perfectly, and made me feel good about the products I was using with my baby. Now that she’s 5, I can’t wait to explore their products for big kids, like the hooded towels and apparel!
